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STOP BEING SO OFFENDED: WHY PEOPLE ARE EASILY OFFENDED

First off, an offence is taken not given. We can decide today to not be hurt. We can ignore the urge to feel offended if we decide to react to things differently. An offence is when you're upset or hurt because someone has been rude or disrespectful. I know sometimes people can be unbearable but if you react negatively to situations all the time, you're only stealing your peace of mind. People get offended because they feel attacked but do you know you can resist this urge and become a better version of yourself? Keep reading. Taking offence means you are pissed at something. Pride also plays a huge role when it comes to taking offence. One thing is sure, you would get wrinkled easily if all you do is take offence at the slightest things.
This image shows the lady is offended. What would she gain by being stuck up? Personalize that question and what's your answer? Absolutely nothing!

How to not be so easily offended:

If you lack humility and selflessness, then you are likely to get offended easily. You need to believe everyone has a good intention at heart towards you. When you are told the truth about something, accept that you are wrong, make corrections rather than taking offence. This is where humility comes in. Get off your high horse, love truth more than the need to be right. Even if you don't agree, state your opinion or give explanations but do it selflessly. Everyone is entitled to their opinion so let them have it. Always remember that we are here to serve people and not to be served. It cannot always be about you. Self-centredness will make you see every motive, action or word as an attack and with this attitude, you will be offended time and again. 

Learn to let things slide and stop looking for things to be offended by. Accept that people cannot be like you. Everyone is unique and special in their own way and people see things differently. If someone offends you, rather than getting offended, forgive and let go. Both genetic and environmental factors determine someone's personality. You don't know where they came from or why they think the way they do. The best thing you would do for yourself and such people is to overlook. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change. Allow others to be themselves around you. This will help you understand people better and not get offended easily. 

Grow your inner self. Train your mental and emotional body. Embrace what scares you. Be happy and stay happy. No one has the right to hurt you unless you let them. You need to accept yourself first before you can accept others. Accept your imperfection and others too for no one is perfect.  When having an argument or discussion, choose not to create meaning for every word. Don't jump to conclusions either. Learn to listen, accept before acting. 


Personally, I don't even have the space to keep any offence because I love my peace of mind. I have learnt and still learning the act of forgiveness. I have been spoken to rudely and disrespected but all I do in response to that is smile. You can do it. Stay happy and keep smiling. Remember, an offence is taken and not given.

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