Today, the world feels there must be something wrong, if you stay alone or enjoy staying alone. I don't think so! It just means you are an introvert and there's nothing wrong with that. Not everyone likes to chitchat every now and then and that's when an ambivert comes in. An ambivert is one who has both an introvert and an extrovert personality. They can be boisterous and at the same time, they enjoy being alone like going to the movies solo.
If you are an ambivert, welcome to the club. I get that a lot of people do not understand you most times. Know that enjoying alone time sometimes doesn't mean you don't enjoy hanging out or making friends; it just simply means that when one is alone, it's the only time they get to meditate and process things for a while without distractions and while at that, a lot can be achieved.
Ambiverts are people who sometimes like to socialise but other times, like to be alone. Couple of times, I have isolated myself and people around me start to think there is something wrong. Is there a law that says, one should never stay alone? In fact solitude was practised a lot by Jesus Christ especially when he wants to talk to God or meditate. Often times, I am being asked why I isolate myself and I reply, why not? There are so many reasons people do that. Solitude is not the absence of company but it's the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life. We all need that alone time if we want to grow or be productive. After all, it keeps us from getting into trouble as well. When we are always with people or company, we do things to please them so we don't hurt them, we don't get serious with plans or goals especially when there is a deadline because they are either making us laugh or engaging us in something irrelevant. I realized that if you never have alone time, you cannot know yourself. Thomas A. Edison said, the best thinking has been done in solitude.
Pablo Picasso also said, without great solitude, no serious work is possible. It is in great solitude, you get inspired. I write better when am alone or there's less distraction. Some people perform better when they have a little privacy. When you are by your self, you can make choices without outside influences and that will help develop more insight into who you are as a person. Being around people all the time can be mentally exhausting because you have to make them laugh, make them happy...
Alone time let's you take an emotional break. It gives you a great opportunity to reflect and focus inwards.
The time you spend alone gives you a greater appreciation for yourself and you will become more independent.
Once you are comfortable being alone, the only person's happiness you have to be concerned with is yours and there is nothing wrong with that.
I won't have been able to write this article in an hour if I was not alone or distracted because as I write, I think and process my thoughts a lot.
You owe no explanation to anyone about your being isolated.
There are benefits and disadvantages as with all other personalities. You just need to know how to balance it. Go out with friends when you feel like and when you don't feel like, do not be sorry. It might make people see you or perceive you as not outgoing but do not let that cloud your thinking because God has a reason why he created you and His plans are always for good and not evil.
There will always be people who understand you and who adore you just the way you are. Not everyone is a friend even if they say they are. The realest people don't have a lot of friends.
Enjoy your alone time and have no regrets because you are unique and blessed!
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