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DO YOU HAVE AN ENEMY? THEY ARE FRIENDS IN DISGUISE - SEE HOW


According to the Bible verse in 
2 Corinthians 12:10; when you are insulted, persecuted, hated for no reason, it makes you strong and there is always a lesson to learn from every adversity. Paul took pleasure in his weaknesses, in the insults howled at him because he believed that Christ's power rests on him to overcome and triumph. The power of Christ is available to make every weakness perfect and his grace abounds forever for when you are weak, then you are strong.

We all have that one or two persons in our life we see as our enemy or maybe ''haters'' like we call it now. But do you know they are our friends in disguise?
God uses them to hew us through our character and response to their gimmicks. 
When you are insulted, you can retaliate with a pricking revenge or learn something and see it as a growth opportunity. In the book of Psalm 119:71, David admitted that it is good for him to be afflicted so that he might learn God's mandate. In other words, so that he might learn to be patient, considerate, understanding, forgiving and loving. If no one insults you or hates you, you won't learn or know how to forgive and love unconditionally. 

A psychologist once said: The person who offends us is a teacher and have come to help us reduce our ego, develop patience and compassion, practice unconditional forgiveness, and teach us about life and relationships. If you don't perceive an insult as an insult or an offence as an offence but as a gift or as a teaching, it loses its power to hurt you. On a practical note, if someone offends you, say nothing. Give yourself time to heal. Much harm is created by lashing back, escalating the situation and saying things you may not mean. Recognize it's your ego - that false sense of pride acting up - ignore it.

Paul reached a place where he actually took pleasure in insults (2 Corinthians 12:10). Most of us are not there yet, but with time and practice it can happen. 
Speaking of Judas, one author said: God sometimes orchestrates the actions of our enemies to make them work as friends in order to accomplish his will in our lives. God used Judas to accomplish his will for Christ. Without Judas, there won't be a Jesus today. Without Goliath, David wouldn't have been King. That situation may seem worst and hopeless, but there is a blessing subsequently.

God can bless you through the worst relationships or people, ones that are toxic, negative and painful. 
A friend told me that his current job was from a man he insulted years back. Just imagine that!
The time, effort and plan we invest in such people (enemies) aren't wasted because God knows how to make misfortune feed destiny into your life. I can't promise that everyone who comes to you will be friendly, neither can I stop offence from coming. But know this, the sufferings of victory builds our character, directs us and in the end you find grace to review your enemies and realize that like Judas, your enemies or haters are friends in disguise.

Something happened to me after realizing that insults should make us better or stronger instead of running from it or taking it personal. 

We all need each other and each of us need all of us to succeed.



Thanks for reading!

X O X O 

TK

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