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DIFFERENT WAYS TO KNOW YOU LOVE SOMEONE


Falling in love can be a bit scary especially when you don't know or not sure the other person feels the same way. Personally, love was never in my glossary because I had so many disturbing events with machos and it led to my deep distrust in men and in love generally. I never imagined there was ever going to be a time I would say I love you to someone and mean it sincerely until recently. Love is indeed a beautiful thing if rather reciprocated. One thing that is quite profound about love is that when you truly love someone, you put them first, you put their needs first, you give without expecting and you rather loose so they can win.

There are so many ways to know when someone loves you or when you love someone but written below are a few tips on how to depict real love.


  • When you love someone, their happiness is as important to you as is yours. When love is involved in a relationship, you care about the other person's happiness. Meaning, their happiness becomes your happiness. If you tell a man something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, then he doesn't love you. It's that simple. Someone who loves you will avoid  things that could make you unhappy and will be willing to learn or do those things that will make you happy.



  • When you love someone, you do everything possible to become a better person for their sake. You do all you can to be responsible and to make them proud. Being in love would thrust you to work on your bad or imperfect side. You always want to instigate the best you whenever you're in love. I am in my best version now than I was before meeting my boyfriend.



  • When you love someone, you yearn for their presence and miss them when they're gone. A writer once said, men fall in love more when the woman is absent. You can't always be all around him, you need to pave way for him to fall for you and he can't if you're always available. When you are not around, does he miss you? Does he check up on you? Does he disappear for days and tells you he's been swamped with work? When you love someone, things remind you of them. You won't let a day go by without hearing from them. Even when you're at work, thoughts of them linger in your mind. You feel connected even when apart. You always want to tell them about your daily means or encounters. All these happens when they miss you and appreciate your presence during your absence.



  • When you love someone you think long-term goals. You imagine the future with them. You think of the empire you would build together. How many children you would have, where you would live, the kind of wedding you would have, the business you would establish; need I say more? Be careful not to give in to short-term temptations that could endanger your long-term goals like sex before marriage.




  • When you love someone you keep them in the loop, that's furnishing them with relevant information or even the irrelevant with regards to a plan or project involving you both. You include them in every decision-making. You ask or seek their opinions even when not necessary.




  • When you love someone, you want the world to know. You aren't afraid to express your feelings in public. You hold their hands, hug them, take them out, introduce them to your closest friends or families. That alone just shows the magnitude of your sobriety. The day my boyfriend introduced me to his friends and family, I was stunned at their embrace. It just proves he's all in and got nothing to hide nor time to waste.




  • When you love someone, you accept the whole pack even the flaws. In a way, flaws make us unique and strong if embraced. Love is the ability to know someone's faults or mistakes and still accept it. You can't or won't accept the imperfection of a person unless you fall in love. It gives you the capacity to embrace their faults and see it as a unique quality.



  • When you love someone, you see things that they don't. You notice things others don't. You pay attention to all the little details and keep it in mind. You notice the tiny dark spot on her index finger....winks, that was an example. You appreciate them, you watch how they interact, how they behave, how they talk, smile, eat or think. You are just interested in the whole package.




  • When you love someone, you don't give up easily and you're always available even when not convenient. When you love sincerely, you don't quit without fighting for them. You put everything you have just so it works. Even when fear lingers or issues arise, you stick together. Love is not about one's own needs and desires but about cleaving in someone else. When someone loves you, nothing is more important than being there when you need them. They may not like the idea but they would certainly show up when you need them and be with you till the end.




  • True love doesn't arouse feelings of insecurity or fear in you as long as you are emotionally stable. When someone loves you, you just know. It's quite obvious even to the layman. There would be calmness in your heart and a feeling of peace. If you ever doubt someone's love or not sure they love you, it's because they actually don't love you. Doubt envelopes our mind when we are uncertain and once you are not sure, don't waste your time. Real love is distinct and definite. You just know it without any doubt or anxiety.

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